Today we talk about two people.

The first person, is known as the “Queen of foreign trade” Ran Lingyan.

But before becoming a “queen”, she is a lot of peers in the eyes of the female Hanzi.

Other female saleswomen generally stay in the office, do some reply to e-mails, organize quotes and so on.

Of course she does these things, but most of the time, she prefers to run around like most male salesmen.

In order to explain the technical parameters to customers, she would carry dozens of pounds of equipment halfway across the city.

In order to understand the internal structure of the product, she would put up her hair and go down to the assembly plant to screw in the screws.

Once, she visited a potential customer.

The customer told her that they had already chosen another supplier.

Just then, someone ran by and knocked over the supplier’s prototype.

The prototype rolled down the stairs to the first floor, where it suffered many cracks.

Without saying a word, Ran Lingyan lifted her own equipment over her head and smashed it downstairs.

With this behavior, she succeeded in proving that the product is stronger than the competitors’, and finally let the customer change his mind.

Some people advised her not to use the weak points of female salesmen to compare with the strong points of male salesmen.

However, time has changed, and now Ran Lingyan not only has her own company, but also created the largest foreign trade forum, personal worth is already over a hundred million.

On the contrary, when she was ridiculed as a “woman” counterparts, most of them are still sitting at the computer desk, doing what the so-called female saleswoman should do.

 

The second person, is just retired from the army after 00 boy Yang Kun.

As a result, shortly after his discharge, he made a decision that was difficult for those around him to accept:

Commitment to the housekeeping industry, become a male nanny.

Some friends advised him: “What is not good for you to do as a big man, but to do women’s work?”

But it turns out that all the services that women can provide, Yang Kun can provide.

Big bags of fresh ingredients to his hands, turn into a table of delicious meals.

When cleaning the room, he would lie on the floor and pick the dust out of the cracks.

The old man who has just been discharged from the hospital, his body is also gradually getting better under his careful care.

In addition, many female nannies are not good to do the rough work, heavy work, he can also rely on the body of a former soldier easily competent.

Both female care, but also male physique, Yang Kun soon became particularly sought-after, income also far more than peers.

Soon after, he created his own housekeeping company, the nannies recruited are all veterans like him.

And it is such a look at some of the other nanny team, in the local popularity, booking orders can be lined up to six months later.

 

Why are we talking about these two guys?

Because I’ve noticed that a lot of people these days like to emphasize which jobs are good for women to do and which ones are good for men to do again.

But in fact, the people who really make a lot of money, often like Ran Lingyan and Yang Kun, androgynous people.

This is called “duality”.

She said: “A person with duality trait, it means a complete personality. Such a person is more capable of thinking out of the box and is more likely to stand out in social competition.”

I used to relate to this when I was an editor.

Generally speaking, female authors tend to gravitate towards parenting and emotional selections, while male authors go for more hardcore, tell-it-like-it-is articles.

Yet there are very few authors who can have soft and delicate strokes or a deep and sharp writing style; who can empathize with people or be thought-provoking.

It’s almost impossible to guess their gender through what they write.

And because they can write all types of articles, their fee rates are set at the highest level.

It’s not just writing, but bigwigs in many fields that have the same trait.

Like Sheryl Sandberg, the former COO of Facebook, who on the one hand is known in Silicon Valley for her tough negotiating style, but on the other hand emphasizes a culture of flexibility in management and actively promotes “women’s leadership programs”;

Hastings, the co-founder of NetFlix, also has the adventurous qualities of ending the DVD rental business and the empathetic thinking of proposing an “unlimited vacation system” for employees.

Psychologist Jung once said:

“We are all pre-installed by God with a dual system, in the greatness of the man’s body survives the gentleness of the woman, and in the delicate soul of the woman lies the rigidity of the man.”

A man who is only rigid and not gentle and a woman who is only soft and not rigid are both essentially sealing off parts of themselves.

True masters do not limit their lives by gender, nor are they trapped by worldly rules.

They pursue the life they want with their whole selves, rather than trying to live the way other people think a woman or a man should.

 

I also read this story.

A young man opened a restaurant and asked his parents for advice.

The mother said, “If you treat your employees well, they will do their best for you.

The father, on the other hand, said, “You have to be a little bit fierce so that the staff will obey you.

As a result, when the young man applied his mother’s business ideas, the staff slacked off at every opportunity and the restaurant was often complained about by customers.

And when he adopted his father’s advice, the staff again screamed and complained and offered to leave.

It is only when he combines the ideas of the two men and gives his staff both grace and mercy that the hotel gradually gets on the right track.

In this complex world, it is easy to expose the shortcomings of either a purely female or male mindset.

As the writer Yang Si Yuan said:

“Everyone has both male and female qualities; both are shortcomings when viewed in isolation, and both are strengths when combined.”

Margaret Howell was a womenswear designer.

At the time, the women’s fashion scene was extremely homogenized, and she was never able to stand out despite having a few screaming designs.

A friend suggested to her that she try a different track, menswear.

Huo Wei Er’s first reaction was that her friend was joking with her.

As a woman herself, her understanding of menswear is definitely not as good as that of male designers.

But when she tried, she realized that there was not a gap between the thinking of the two sexes.

One can stand in the male point of view, to design simple, straight style of clothing.

And when dealing with details such as necklines and buttons, she could also return to the female perspective and incorporate delicate thoughts on the side of softness.

In just a few years, Huo Wei Er, who was unknown in the women’s fashion circle, has become famous in the men’s fashion circle.

After several of her designs sold well, she launched a menswear label, Margaret Howell, under her own name.

There’s this quote from The Genders of Modernity:

“The greatest misguidance of this society to the common man is that men choose science and women choose liberal arts; that men are rational and women are emotional; that men are brave and decisive and women are careful and sensitive ……

From the very beginning, limit your life to the arguments of what to do and what not to do.”

The heart is fierce and delicate.

To be androgynous is not to hide the qualities of one’s nature, but to be compatible with the strengths of the other sex.

Such a person will always be a winner in life, regardless of whether he or she is physically male or female. ▽I agree very much with such a saying:

The world is made up of men and women, and to think in only one gender is equivalent to losing half of the world.

Wealth, is the realization of cognition.

Jump out of the narrow view of gender, when you have a more complete cognition and judgment of the world, making money will also become a water to a thing.